Dear Maya,
My fingers write this letter filled to the brim with a mixture of opposing emotions, some of which I do not know and cannot name.
One thing I do know: you're gone.
I'm not going to lie to you and say that I broke down in tears. I didn't go get a collection of your poetry off of my bookshelf and read some of my favorites, because I don't own one. Honestly, I didn't even Google your name, write a sappy, half-thought-out Facebook post about my sorrow, or Tweet about your passing. But I'm here, now, writing to you, and maybe what I have to say will make up for those things. Or, maybe, you wouldn't have minded anyway.
I'm currently a teacher. I know there's no way you would have known that about me, but precisely why I decided to tell you. In addition to teaching my own classes, I also help a good friend of mine in her room every other day, period 7. A bunch of hoodlums, I tell you. Loveable ones, sure-- but little shits nonetheless.
Oh. Sorry about that. While your class and effervescent beauty would appear to most as a shield against swearing, I'm going to believe that you, Maya, had a mouth of your own sometimes.
In fact, my little slip-up is the perfect segue into a story I have for you. It's about a boy in that class I just mentioned. Don't worry, I'll keep it short, Maya-- I know you've probably got a lot of letters, prayers, and words coming your way--but please at least hear me out.
So that classroom full of shits (they really are a lot, I tell ya), well, a lot of their comprehension levels are quite low. I'd get into why, explain the day-to-day struggles of the students I work with and the school as a whole, but, like I said-- there is no time for that.
Junior, his name was. My teacher-friend asked me if I could pull the boy (I guess, at seventeen, a young man) out into the hallway, sit down in a pair of desks, and just read "Still I Rise" with him to check for understanding. If you're not aware, Maya-- that's one of yours.
I took him out into the hallway, and read with him stanza by stanza, questioning him throughout. I focused a lot on the repetition and simile use, because that was what the class inside was working on.
What do you think she means when she says, "I walk like I've got oil wells/Pumping through my living room?"
I don't know.
Well, what do you know about oil?
It's slippery?
Okay! Keep on that. How might someone look if he or she "walked" on oil?
Stupid. They'd probably fall.
After that, I admittedly just went through the motions. The boy-man was with it enough to get that "the lady keeps getting up when bad things happen", and when you said "the meeting of my thighs", you meant a place he'd seen on a night when he was in love with cheap Tequila and sort of liked the Dominican girl across the room because of the way she smiled at him.
We went back into the classroom: I helped monitor the class' completion of comprehension questions, and the bell rang eventually. Another day, over; another eight hours of me feeling beaten down, sucked dry-- over.
Today, I went on Facebook, as I do most mornings, and saw that a plethora of people had posted one of your poems, insightful quotes, or pictures on their profiles. In the world of social media, this means only one thing: death.
Again, I didn't cry. I didn't ravage my bookshelf for an anthology with your name inside. I didn't text anyone, I didn't call anyone, I didn't comment below the "R.I.P, Maya" statuses I saw.
What I did do was think of Junior. I thought of the kids walking past us in the hallway the day we read your famed poem. Most acknowledged him with a smirk or an audible chuckle. A popular boy, nearly every student slapped Junior's hand and casually walked on by, or, at the very least, shouted some obscene message of teenage-boy affection behind his shoulder--all of which Junior responded to with a subtle smile. There were moments of quiet, though, when the halls were empty, and I remembered how Junior's face looked every time I asked him a question about a word, a line, a simile.
I don't know, Miss. I hate this.
Why? You've got it! You're doing really well.
I hate this. Why do we have to do this?
You know, who cares if you're not perfect? The important thing is that you try.
Miss. I don't know. I hate it.
What was he talking about, Maya? What did he hate? I ask you because I didn't ask him myself. I assume he was talking about reading out loud, because he felt uncomfortable with not only me, but himself. He also could have meant he hated the fact that he was singled out, the stupid kid in the class, to read with the "other" teacher in the hallway. Maybe he hated being seen by classmates, fellow peers, hated knowing later he'd have to describe the experience as something other than it was. How else could he keep his status at his lunch table?
I'm trying to connect these two thoughts, and I'm struggling. What does your death have to do with the struggle of teens in an urban district?
Perhaps it is this: our words are our truths.
You wrote your truth into existence. You spoke your truth to billions of people for nearly a century. As for the lives you've affected through those words? Just look at Twitter for proof.
Junior will never write his truth, whatever it is, into existence. He certainly will never speak it. And I'm fairly certain no one will post to any online platforms about him. His words will never become anything more than bubbles on the precipice of his lips, waiting to escape, but bursting at the sound of "stupid" or "dumb."
Of your death, CNN.com says, "a literary voice...has fallen silent." You haven't done any such falling. If anything, your voice is louder and clearer now than ever before.
I hope it doesn't take Junior as long to find his words, but I write this letter, Maya, with the knowledge that it might. And I ask, of you, in all of your eternal beauty, insurmountable passion, and intelligence beyond the brain, that you watch over that boy-- and erase hate, one last time.
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
Saturday, May 24, 2014
Dear Marty McFly
Dear Marty,
I was in Target the other day, browsing clearance accessories, when I heard a woman scream at her child a few aisles over:
Mother: I'm NOT kidding! Shut your mouth!
Child: Momma! Momma! But it has dinosaurs on it!
Mother: If you open your f*&%@$! mouth again, I'm going to smack you in the head.
Great Scott! You must be horrified by this story, Marty, as I was. I wish I was kidding--what mother in her right mind speaks to her child like that, let alone in public?
I ignored the disturbing occurrence, and soon found myself in an aisle of bohemian purses and bags, along with some pocketbooks and wallets. The faceless mother let loose another outrageous claim to what had to have been her four-year-old little boy.
You're so stupid; I can't stand you when you whine. Seriously, you're pissing me the f*&% off.
Marty, it took every ounce of my being not to seek that bitch out and punch her right in the teeth. In fact, had it not been for my fiance gently holding the crook of my elbow, I'd probably be in a cell somewhere instead of writing this letter to you. Thankfully I'm able to, because you reminded me of something really important that day.
I know, I know, strange-- seeing as how you weren't even there. Physically, anyway.
You see, I haven't been able to get that "mother" out of my head. How disturbed I was about her actions, her words, her child's future. How growing up without a dinosaur watch, for him, was symbolic of so much more than an ignored request of innocent desire. Where will he be in fifteen years? What if he becomes another painfully accurate story of isolation and loneliness, set to to a well-matched headline on the April 14th, 2029 prime time news? Will the end of his life cost those of many others?
I don't know his name. I never saw his face. How will I know if he turned out all right? Or, at the very least, a little right?
I wanted to go back in time. I wanted to throw that Mommy up against the rack of Target sunglasses and grab her ear and hiss into it, pelting spit pebbles on the side of her face. I wanted to make her feel as tiny as the crumb of pizza crust her son dropped on to their living room carpet last month, the crumb she stepped on, the crumb she punished her son for by sending him to his room without dinner or a glass of juice.
And then, then-- that was when I thought of you.
You went back in time, once. I believe it was to 1955? An elaborate plan was in place, one that would render your father, George McFly, the hero of the hour. Then Biff showed up, nearly causing your entire future to crumble, disappear from pictures, slide through your fingers and off your electric guitar strings.
What if you had been the one to knock his nose into pieces, not your Dad? You, the hero of the hour. Maybe you would still be date-nighted into existence out of pity, but not out of love-- and definitely not out of chivalry. A loveless marriage and a long, neglectful childhood later, you'd find yourself in a basement apartment in a slum neighborhood trying to re-create the flux capacitor, hoping you could travel back in time and take that fist back. You'd give it to George, knowing that from his benefits, you might turn out all right.
Don't you see, Marty? Had I been able to go back, had I been able to relieve my empathetic pain by punching her, I would have inevitably screwed up the space-time continuum of my life. A blank, voiceless, faceless existence would be no existence at all. And maybe I'd have ended up a story on the evening news, May 14th, 2014.
I think of my father and mother, and the fires we built when we went camping as a family. My dad would plug in his decrepit box radio into the electrical outlet and play Oldies cassette tapes, bumping his head while filleting the steak we were soon to cook. I can remember my brother tripping and falling, his hands out in front of him to stave the fall, landing on the hot grate and searing the skin on his hands. My mother felt awful, and tended to him that trip several times a day with aloe and gauze. To my brother, it seemed to be just a boo-boo, but it was a fault, a lack, a mistake for my mother. I'm sure she'd have gladly burned her own flesh instead to take away his pain, but she wouldn't have understood that in his future, my brother would probably need that memory to remind him of how to care for a hurt child, dress his bandages after injury. Hopefully some day I will have a nephew or a niece, and can take a picture, black and white, of Mike snapping off the tip of an aloe plant.
My graduate school, set in the Green Mountains of Vermont, has barn dances every Saturday night in the summer. One particular dance asks its participants to dress up as something or someone that serves as a suppressed desire of sorts, something that each guy or girl wishes to be but never will. I bought a checkered button-down and an orange vest from a second hand store, and was lucky enough to find a skateboard and a child's musical guitar at the Kmart in the city nearby. I asked the DJ to play Johnny B. Goode, and took it upon myself to dance in the middle of a crowd-circle, pushing the buttons on my toy guitar, mouthing the words to the Berry classic.
The next day, my knees were bruised and bloody from skidding on the hardwood. I called my father and told him of my costume, trying my best to explain that I was the star of the show for just a few minutes. I called my mother and asked her what the best ointment was for raw, exposed skin.
There are so many Biffs in the world, and not enough George McFlys. Everyone knows that. It is rare for good to stand up to evil, and even more rare for good to triumph. Martys though-- they're the most important stock character. The people who can pick out the slugs on the tulips, but don't always cast them away with a flick of their fingers.
You see, Marty, those people, our type of people, we take everything in. Born to soak things into our souls, we pick and choose when to act, always taking in each individual experience and using it to create a futuristic photo. One that includes well-fed, often-hugged children, maybe a puppy, one that doesn't disappear by trying to go back in time and change things that hurt. Biffs will always hurt others, and it is our job not to destroy them, but to eventually make them the minority by learning from their mistakes.
Think, McFly. Think. That's what people like us do. And I'm beginning to realize that going back to the future is much more important than being able to erase things, make them blank-- after all, someone's gotta drive the DeLorean.
With 1.21 gigawatts of hope for the future,
Lindsay
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
Dear Man In The Volvo Behind Me
Dear Man In The Volvo Behind Me,
I'm going to be honest with you, but I don't think you're going to like it.
I sort of cut you off when I merged on to the highway. If you took it personally, I'm sincerely not sorry.
You looked (in the brief seconds I got to observe your curmudgeonly face) to me like the type of person that would be offended, maybe even angry, about this apologetic apathy. Perhaps you'd like an explanation of why I feel no remorse about my actions, and I will give one to you.
You are an asshole. You are also stupid. (I even gave you an extra reason, in case you were to object.)
I'm sure your wife (girlfriend?) in the passenger seat would agree with my assumptions, because:
a) You were flailing your arms around like a three-year-old who had to sit out of recess after biting a classmate on the finger, and it seemed like that rage was directed toward her. Did she forget to pack your lunch? Maybe you were expecting a salad, and you got leftovers. Did she change the radio station from Yo Yo Ma to Journey, infuriating you to no end? Are you deaf? Wait-- I've got it. Maybe she cheated on you? If that was the case, I'm not sorry again-- I'm positive your beard gets in the way of your performance. I know all too well the distraction of facial hair. Because I can't think of any other reason for you to wave your pudgy fingers around and pretend you're more of a man than you are, I'm just chalking it up to the fact that you're an asshole.
b) She knows, like everyone else in this fucking world, that when you are on the highway and there is a merge lane to your right, you should generally be aware of the traffic coming forth. And, as a rule of thumb, you should alternate with the cars in the merge lane to become one synonymous lane of flowing, rush-hour traffic. I am assuming you know the definitions of both alternate and synonymous--a dangerous assumption, indeed-- and that you simply chose to disobey the general rules of driving vehicles because you were trying to get home for re-runs of Swamp People. Which, of course, makes you stupid. Not because you like the show (God bless those crazy men), but because you're a slave to television, and that dependence clearly hinders your ability to make intelligent decisions on a busy highway.
c) Because we have established that you are undoubtedly an asshole who happens to also be stupid, let's talk about the fact that you seemed to be upset with me when I had no other choice but to cut you off-- so as to not kiss the guard rail. My fault? Eat shit. Perhaps if you hadn't missed therapy this week, you'd have been much more rational about the whole thing, understood that it was I (I!) who was fearful of death, of never binge watching Breaking Bad a second time, of never letting Ben & Jerry's Half Baked melt on my tongue again, because you nearly caused me to bump uglies with the highway shoulder. Too busy bursting bubbles of hot air at the windshield instead of paying attention to me in your side view mirror, you believed me to be at fault as I pinched you out of your lane. I had just come from professional development at my school, which was frightening enough. And then you dared to pause your irrational tirade in order to flip me off? Why don't you do me a favor, and go swallow a knife.
I realize I don't know your name. Please realize I could give a rat's ass. I bet your mother (who must have been a saint), named you something royal like Charles or Darby in an effort to give you a false sense of self. She could smell your insecurity when you emerged from her womb. While I'm certain that you do have a name that may or may not be Arthur, I am going to continue referring to you as the Man In the Volvo Behind Me, because, quite frankly, you don't deserve a name.
Do I have road rage? Is Steve Perry one of the greatest voices in the last fifty years?
Yes. Yes.
I'm not going to end this letter to you, Man In the Volvo Behind Me, by pretending this letter was some form of catharsis, and that I will quickly forget the fact that you are a stupid asshole. Instead, I'm going to hope that (though I will never know the truth) your wife's breaking point was your quivering gray beard and gaping pie hole screaming at her for no reason on a beautiful, sunny Spring day. I hope that you got home, ate dinner, and watched your evening shows. I hope you at least jerked off to relieve some of the tension that clearly runs rampant in your veins. I hope that some time in the early morning tomorrow, maybe 2:47 am, that you wake up to go to the bathroom and realize that your wife isn't there, next to your rank and rageful ass in your cheap bed sheets. Fuck you, and your Volvo.
Wife of Man In the Volvo Behind Me, call up the man you left when you were 25 in order to be with your soon-to-be ex-husband William. I bet he is single, I bet his name is probably something like Tony or Chad, and I bet the only expletives he uses are when he is performing in a top-notch manner in the bedroom.
He also probably has no beard.
To traffic collaboration,
Lindsay
I'm going to be honest with you, but I don't think you're going to like it.
I sort of cut you off when I merged on to the highway. If you took it personally, I'm sincerely not sorry.
You looked (in the brief seconds I got to observe your curmudgeonly face) to me like the type of person that would be offended, maybe even angry, about this apologetic apathy. Perhaps you'd like an explanation of why I feel no remorse about my actions, and I will give one to you.
You are an asshole. You are also stupid. (I even gave you an extra reason, in case you were to object.)
I'm sure your wife (girlfriend?) in the passenger seat would agree with my assumptions, because:
a) You were flailing your arms around like a three-year-old who had to sit out of recess after biting a classmate on the finger, and it seemed like that rage was directed toward her. Did she forget to pack your lunch? Maybe you were expecting a salad, and you got leftovers. Did she change the radio station from Yo Yo Ma to Journey, infuriating you to no end? Are you deaf? Wait-- I've got it. Maybe she cheated on you? If that was the case, I'm not sorry again-- I'm positive your beard gets in the way of your performance. I know all too well the distraction of facial hair. Because I can't think of any other reason for you to wave your pudgy fingers around and pretend you're more of a man than you are, I'm just chalking it up to the fact that you're an asshole.
b) She knows, like everyone else in this fucking world, that when you are on the highway and there is a merge lane to your right, you should generally be aware of the traffic coming forth. And, as a rule of thumb, you should alternate with the cars in the merge lane to become one synonymous lane of flowing, rush-hour traffic. I am assuming you know the definitions of both alternate and synonymous--a dangerous assumption, indeed-- and that you simply chose to disobey the general rules of driving vehicles because you were trying to get home for re-runs of Swamp People. Which, of course, makes you stupid. Not because you like the show (God bless those crazy men), but because you're a slave to television, and that dependence clearly hinders your ability to make intelligent decisions on a busy highway.
c) Because we have established that you are undoubtedly an asshole who happens to also be stupid, let's talk about the fact that you seemed to be upset with me when I had no other choice but to cut you off-- so as to not kiss the guard rail. My fault? Eat shit. Perhaps if you hadn't missed therapy this week, you'd have been much more rational about the whole thing, understood that it was I (I!) who was fearful of death, of never binge watching Breaking Bad a second time, of never letting Ben & Jerry's Half Baked melt on my tongue again, because you nearly caused me to bump uglies with the highway shoulder. Too busy bursting bubbles of hot air at the windshield instead of paying attention to me in your side view mirror, you believed me to be at fault as I pinched you out of your lane. I had just come from professional development at my school, which was frightening enough. And then you dared to pause your irrational tirade in order to flip me off? Why don't you do me a favor, and go swallow a knife.
I realize I don't know your name. Please realize I could give a rat's ass. I bet your mother (who must have been a saint), named you something royal like Charles or Darby in an effort to give you a false sense of self. She could smell your insecurity when you emerged from her womb. While I'm certain that you do have a name that may or may not be Arthur, I am going to continue referring to you as the Man In the Volvo Behind Me, because, quite frankly, you don't deserve a name.
Do I have road rage? Is Steve Perry one of the greatest voices in the last fifty years?
Yes. Yes.
I'm not going to end this letter to you, Man In the Volvo Behind Me, by pretending this letter was some form of catharsis, and that I will quickly forget the fact that you are a stupid asshole. Instead, I'm going to hope that (though I will never know the truth) your wife's breaking point was your quivering gray beard and gaping pie hole screaming at her for no reason on a beautiful, sunny Spring day. I hope that you got home, ate dinner, and watched your evening shows. I hope you at least jerked off to relieve some of the tension that clearly runs rampant in your veins. I hope that some time in the early morning tomorrow, maybe 2:47 am, that you wake up to go to the bathroom and realize that your wife isn't there, next to your rank and rageful ass in your cheap bed sheets. Fuck you, and your Volvo.
Wife of Man In the Volvo Behind Me, call up the man you left when you were 25 in order to be with your soon-to-be ex-husband William. I bet he is single, I bet his name is probably something like Tony or Chad, and I bet the only expletives he uses are when he is performing in a top-notch manner in the bedroom.
He also probably has no beard.
To traffic collaboration,
Lindsay
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
Dear Mrs. VanScoy
Mrs VanScoy,
Do you recall the time in elementary school when you gave me detention because I was single and pathetic?
So do I.
It was May. I remember because that day we had played a kickball game outside for gym class, and one of the class morons, Ryan, was screaming, "MAY DAY! MAY DAY!" at the top of his lungs every SINGLE time he ran the bases. I also remember wishing I could trip him, but ended up sparing him my foot; I was afraid that his girlfriend, Jordyn, would put a zebra cake under my ass before it hit the cafeteria bench.
Anyway, on that particular day, I had forgotten my lunch money and consequently had nothing to drink at lunchtime. (My father had given me a flask for my 9th birthday and I was right quick to use it. Jack Daniels before breakfast, Absolut after a hot luncheon meal of "Grilled Cheeze" or "Turkey 'N' Gravy", Sambuca for my night cap. It worked out well in general, until I passed out on my Apple keyboard while playing Oregon Trail.)
Because my flask was pilfered, I was dying of thirst-- not to mention I had just finished playing a rigorous game of kickball-- and my trachea was swollen from swallowing the dust that Ryan kicked in my face after his second home run. To top it all off, my pockets were empty and I couldn't ask any of my friends to help me out.
I know you're thinking, Why? Why wouldn't her friends pitch a few bucks at her? And Jesus, your father gave you a flask?
Okay. So that may have been a hair hyperbolic. It was a portable shot glass. And, if it were any less than three years ago, I may not have told you the truth about my friends. But I've grown up, Mrs. VanScoy. I can admit, only now, that the reason I couldn't ask is because I didn't want to ask. I was on a reduced lunch plan, which meant I could get as much food as I wanted for a quarter. A quarter! Those lunch ladies smiled at me with distaste and condescension. Their hairnets caught on fire when they grazed my grimy 5th grade fingers as if I were committing some sacrilege.
But you know what? I ate like a queen and took advantage of my parents' misfortunes. Most of the time, it was glorious. Unless, of course, you forgot your fucking quarter on the corner of the counter because your little brother stabbed you in the arm with a pencil and all short-term memory conceded itself to pain.
Nevertheless, I couldn't let anyone know about the fact I paid for salt with quarters. I could have asked for the regular price of lunch like a smart child, but I'd like to think that even back then my moral ground was above sea level. I lied to my friends and said I wasn't hungry, and never asked for a sip of any of their Capri Suns. Not to mention, if Ryan ever knew I was poor, I would never have a chance with him when he and Jordyn inevitably split up after he let her Nano Baby die while babysitting it.
Mrs. VanScoy, I'm sorry. I've gotten off-track, but I promise I'm almost to the point. Let's recap: I was annoyed with Ryan. I was thirsty from the combination of rage, dust, and general loss of water due to running bases. My hunger lost to my pride during lunch. Generally speaking, my day was already a pile of dog crap. And this is where you come in.
Upon coming back to the classroom, you informed us that we were to continue our journeys on Oregon Trail in pairs. Because we sat in groups of four, the remaining two were to complete Mad Math worksheets. My worksheet was DONE. I had ten minutes left until my TURN on the computer. My throat was a field of cotton.
Can I go to the bathroom and get a drink, please?
Sure. Take the pass, and be quick.
You weren't a fan of warmth.
After I relieved myself (can I use that word in reference to a little girl going pee?), I walked to the drinking fountain. The only reason I didn't chug water first was because by that time, I was about to piss my pants too. A right lovely combination for a buck-toothed, quarter-tossing, impoverished little twerp.
When I got to the fountain, I had my fill. When I looked up, I saw the letters "RTY" in big, bold, black letters on a poster about six feet up the hallway. I KNEW it was going to describe in detail the time, date, and details of the Spring Fling roller skating party. The only thing that could turn my day around was scoping it out so that I could temporarily get my hopes up about being asked to it, anticipate holding hands with a boy I couldn't stand (but it was a boy!), and go home knowing that nothing would matter come Monday.
Of course, Mrs. VanScoy, you knew nothing of my sad secrets. How could you? And that's why you did what you did.
Apparently I was gone too long, so you peeked your head out the doorway of our classroom. You saw me beyond the periphery of the bounds you had given. Before I could blink, you stormed up the hallway and threw me against the tile brick, a gnarled finger in my face. Your nail was cracked and streaky like you hadn't had a manicure in years. Red rivers made your eyeballs look like you stole my flask. I remember thinking you were a bitch for doing that, but then realized it was only a joke I had with myself. The jowls on both sides of your face swung like pendulums, and it was out of fear that I threw my arms up to protect myself.
Really, though: did you not care about your appearance, even years before you taught me? The worst part was your breath. The rancid air escaped your mouth in the form of ditched first dates, under appreciation, a brother who died too young, and a daughter with skin cancer.
Shocked? Good. I know all this about you, Mrs VanScoy, because word gets around in a small, small town. And I still blame you.
You're shocked again. And I don't care. Maybe that day everything in your life that ever fell to shit electrocuted your soul simply because I stepped over some imaginary line you created. Total truth. But you didn't know my boundaries. You never knew anything about your students because you could have given a fuck less. Every single day of my existence in fifth grade I straddled the lines between child and adult, pretty and ugly, popular and nerdy, okay and, well, not.
So, Mrs. VanScoy, I'm writing to tell you that while I still blame you, I'd like to make amends. Not with you, but with myself. I'm sorry I was annoyed with Ryan that day, but it was only because I was jealous. I'm sorry I was too proud to ask my "friends" for a quarter, and that I let the lunch ladies look at me with disgust without giving them the middle finger. I'm sorry that I never actually bought and used a flask at a young age, as it might have helped me in situations like these, and at winning Oregon Trail.
But I'm not sorry for looking at that poster. I'm not sorry that I walked further than I was supposed to. And I'm not sorry about making you mad. In fact, I'm glad you were, because when I remember your jostling chin and crudely-lined lips, I remind myself that beauty is both on the inside and outside--and I go and get myself a manicure.
Hoping you're well hydrated,
Lindsay
Do you recall the time in elementary school when you gave me detention because I was single and pathetic?
So do I.
It was May. I remember because that day we had played a kickball game outside for gym class, and one of the class morons, Ryan, was screaming, "MAY DAY! MAY DAY!" at the top of his lungs every SINGLE time he ran the bases. I also remember wishing I could trip him, but ended up sparing him my foot; I was afraid that his girlfriend, Jordyn, would put a zebra cake under my ass before it hit the cafeteria bench.
Anyway, on that particular day, I had forgotten my lunch money and consequently had nothing to drink at lunchtime. (My father had given me a flask for my 9th birthday and I was right quick to use it. Jack Daniels before breakfast, Absolut after a hot luncheon meal of "Grilled Cheeze" or "Turkey 'N' Gravy", Sambuca for my night cap. It worked out well in general, until I passed out on my Apple keyboard while playing Oregon Trail.)
Because my flask was pilfered, I was dying of thirst-- not to mention I had just finished playing a rigorous game of kickball-- and my trachea was swollen from swallowing the dust that Ryan kicked in my face after his second home run. To top it all off, my pockets were empty and I couldn't ask any of my friends to help me out.
I know you're thinking, Why? Why wouldn't her friends pitch a few bucks at her? And Jesus, your father gave you a flask?
Okay. So that may have been a hair hyperbolic. It was a portable shot glass. And, if it were any less than three years ago, I may not have told you the truth about my friends. But I've grown up, Mrs. VanScoy. I can admit, only now, that the reason I couldn't ask is because I didn't want to ask. I was on a reduced lunch plan, which meant I could get as much food as I wanted for a quarter. A quarter! Those lunch ladies smiled at me with distaste and condescension. Their hairnets caught on fire when they grazed my grimy 5th grade fingers as if I were committing some sacrilege.
But you know what? I ate like a queen and took advantage of my parents' misfortunes. Most of the time, it was glorious. Unless, of course, you forgot your fucking quarter on the corner of the counter because your little brother stabbed you in the arm with a pencil and all short-term memory conceded itself to pain.
Nevertheless, I couldn't let anyone know about the fact I paid for salt with quarters. I could have asked for the regular price of lunch like a smart child, but I'd like to think that even back then my moral ground was above sea level. I lied to my friends and said I wasn't hungry, and never asked for a sip of any of their Capri Suns. Not to mention, if Ryan ever knew I was poor, I would never have a chance with him when he and Jordyn inevitably split up after he let her Nano Baby die while babysitting it.
Mrs. VanScoy, I'm sorry. I've gotten off-track, but I promise I'm almost to the point. Let's recap: I was annoyed with Ryan. I was thirsty from the combination of rage, dust, and general loss of water due to running bases. My hunger lost to my pride during lunch. Generally speaking, my day was already a pile of dog crap. And this is where you come in.
Upon coming back to the classroom, you informed us that we were to continue our journeys on Oregon Trail in pairs. Because we sat in groups of four, the remaining two were to complete Mad Math worksheets. My worksheet was DONE. I had ten minutes left until my TURN on the computer. My throat was a field of cotton.
Can I go to the bathroom and get a drink, please?
Sure. Take the pass, and be quick.
You weren't a fan of warmth.
After I relieved myself (can I use that word in reference to a little girl going pee?), I walked to the drinking fountain. The only reason I didn't chug water first was because by that time, I was about to piss my pants too. A right lovely combination for a buck-toothed, quarter-tossing, impoverished little twerp.
When I got to the fountain, I had my fill. When I looked up, I saw the letters "RTY" in big, bold, black letters on a poster about six feet up the hallway. I KNEW it was going to describe in detail the time, date, and details of the Spring Fling roller skating party. The only thing that could turn my day around was scoping it out so that I could temporarily get my hopes up about being asked to it, anticipate holding hands with a boy I couldn't stand (but it was a boy!), and go home knowing that nothing would matter come Monday.
Of course, Mrs. VanScoy, you knew nothing of my sad secrets. How could you? And that's why you did what you did.
Apparently I was gone too long, so you peeked your head out the doorway of our classroom. You saw me beyond the periphery of the bounds you had given. Before I could blink, you stormed up the hallway and threw me against the tile brick, a gnarled finger in my face. Your nail was cracked and streaky like you hadn't had a manicure in years. Red rivers made your eyeballs look like you stole my flask. I remember thinking you were a bitch for doing that, but then realized it was only a joke I had with myself. The jowls on both sides of your face swung like pendulums, and it was out of fear that I threw my arms up to protect myself.
Really, though: did you not care about your appearance, even years before you taught me? The worst part was your breath. The rancid air escaped your mouth in the form of ditched first dates, under appreciation, a brother who died too young, and a daughter with skin cancer.
Shocked? Good. I know all this about you, Mrs VanScoy, because word gets around in a small, small town. And I still blame you.
You're shocked again. And I don't care. Maybe that day everything in your life that ever fell to shit electrocuted your soul simply because I stepped over some imaginary line you created. Total truth. But you didn't know my boundaries. You never knew anything about your students because you could have given a fuck less. Every single day of my existence in fifth grade I straddled the lines between child and adult, pretty and ugly, popular and nerdy, okay and, well, not.
So, Mrs. VanScoy, I'm writing to tell you that while I still blame you, I'd like to make amends. Not with you, but with myself. I'm sorry I was annoyed with Ryan that day, but it was only because I was jealous. I'm sorry I was too proud to ask my "friends" for a quarter, and that I let the lunch ladies look at me with disgust without giving them the middle finger. I'm sorry that I never actually bought and used a flask at a young age, as it might have helped me in situations like these, and at winning Oregon Trail.
But I'm not sorry for looking at that poster. I'm not sorry that I walked further than I was supposed to. And I'm not sorry about making you mad. In fact, I'm glad you were, because when I remember your jostling chin and crudely-lined lips, I remind myself that beauty is both on the inside and outside--and I go and get myself a manicure.
Hoping you're well hydrated,
Lindsay
Monday, May 19, 2014
Dear James (the cashier boy)
James,
I know you probably don't remember me, but between you, me, and the almond butter pancakes I'm devouring right now, I don't much care. I'm here to thank you, and to redeem myself.
When I lived in Virginia, I stayed in an apartment building right around the corner from the store where you worked. Because it was within walking distance, I often took foot traffic there for the essentials: hummus and crackers, cage-free eggs, Nature's Own 100% whole wheat bread. If I only needed a few things, there was no need to take my car-- so I'd just bring my iPod along for the 10-minute journey and look forward to the Christmas bell on the front door jangling when I came inside.
Even though I can't remember the first time we met, your face, even now, is like a stamp on my quarter-life crisis-canvas. At a time in my life where nothing was predictable and everything was up in the air, you were a constant.
As a change-slinging, dollar-dollar-bill-counting, produce-bagging young man, for some unknown reason you were always really content doing your job. In the midst of your miserable coworkers, you stood out as the cashier of the century. Not only would you always ask me how I was doing, but you'd also give into my asshole mind games when I was in a bad mood.
"How are you today?"
"You know, actually, I'm not doing well. But I do appreciate you asking."
"Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your day gets better! Smiling always helps!"
Then, because I never had cash, you would look casually at my credit card for verification and say, "Thanks Ms. Coffta!"
This world is full of people who are full of faux-niceties. We, as a species, think that simply asking others, "How ARE you?" is enough. Not only do we not listen to the responses we receive, but we actually hope those we ask won't respond. What kind of crazy shit is that? Fortunately, there are people like you in the world who listen, who respond, who at least pretend to care.
James, I told you I wasn't okay the day I went to go get a pint of Ben and Jerry's after my now-ex-boyfriend told me he needed a little space-- I think it was December. And you heard me. For that, I thank you.
There is something else, James. Something that might shock you. I am really hoping you're not offended, but I just have to tell you for my own sanity's sake.
I noticed, during our frequent visits, that your eyes were always bloodshot. Your Chiclet teeth were yellowed from your frequent smoke breaks, and your friendly-freckled skin shone sallow from the heroin.
Yes, I saw the track marks on your arms, under the hem of the sleeve on your button-down uniform. It might have been the third, fourth time I passed through your lane, but they were there, staring at me like dying dwarf planets, radiating an intense heat and harboring a desire that I myself have never known.
In you, I saw my brother. Wide-eyed and nests of hair hiding secrets, you are more similar than I can possibly know or describe.
There is just one last thing: I'm so sorry, James, that I never asked how you were. How your day was going, how your job was going, what you had planned for your future. I don't generally ask for forgiveness, but perhaps me telling you that my brother has been free of narcotics and hard drugs for over a year-and-a-half will somehow make up for it.
Until then, I hope that wherever you are, you are there. In that moment. Present with yourself, and present with the people around you. I hope you are still asking people around you about their days, listening and responding in a friendly, conversational tone. I hope you still have a job, even if it is somewhere else, and that you make enough money to pay your bills, because being in debt is not fun. I hope you have obtained a degree of some sort from somewhere for some future career that means something to you. (Maybe you could go to school for nursing. With your affect, I bet you'd be fabulous.)
Most of all, I hope you have quit smoking, because not only is it disgusting, but you're literally shaving years off of your life with every drag. As for the heroin, well, there is hope. And help. Often times it comes in the form of anger and pain, but keep your eyes out for it when it comes along. In the meantime, just do your best to count change correctly, remember birthdays, call your parents often, and tell people you care about that you love them more than you think fit.
And as for me, James, I'm doing just fine.
With sisterly love,
Lindsay
I know you probably don't remember me, but between you, me, and the almond butter pancakes I'm devouring right now, I don't much care. I'm here to thank you, and to redeem myself.
When I lived in Virginia, I stayed in an apartment building right around the corner from the store where you worked. Because it was within walking distance, I often took foot traffic there for the essentials: hummus and crackers, cage-free eggs, Nature's Own 100% whole wheat bread. If I only needed a few things, there was no need to take my car-- so I'd just bring my iPod along for the 10-minute journey and look forward to the Christmas bell on the front door jangling when I came inside.
Even though I can't remember the first time we met, your face, even now, is like a stamp on my quarter-life crisis-canvas. At a time in my life where nothing was predictable and everything was up in the air, you were a constant.
As a change-slinging, dollar-dollar-bill-counting, produce-bagging young man, for some unknown reason you were always really content doing your job. In the midst of your miserable coworkers, you stood out as the cashier of the century. Not only would you always ask me how I was doing, but you'd also give into my asshole mind games when I was in a bad mood.
"How are you today?"
"You know, actually, I'm not doing well. But I do appreciate you asking."
"Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your day gets better! Smiling always helps!"
Then, because I never had cash, you would look casually at my credit card for verification and say, "Thanks Ms. Coffta!"
This world is full of people who are full of faux-niceties. We, as a species, think that simply asking others, "How ARE you?" is enough. Not only do we not listen to the responses we receive, but we actually hope those we ask won't respond. What kind of crazy shit is that? Fortunately, there are people like you in the world who listen, who respond, who at least pretend to care.
James, I told you I wasn't okay the day I went to go get a pint of Ben and Jerry's after my now-ex-boyfriend told me he needed a little space-- I think it was December. And you heard me. For that, I thank you.
There is something else, James. Something that might shock you. I am really hoping you're not offended, but I just have to tell you for my own sanity's sake.
I noticed, during our frequent visits, that your eyes were always bloodshot. Your Chiclet teeth were yellowed from your frequent smoke breaks, and your friendly-freckled skin shone sallow from the heroin.
Yes, I saw the track marks on your arms, under the hem of the sleeve on your button-down uniform. It might have been the third, fourth time I passed through your lane, but they were there, staring at me like dying dwarf planets, radiating an intense heat and harboring a desire that I myself have never known.
In you, I saw my brother. Wide-eyed and nests of hair hiding secrets, you are more similar than I can possibly know or describe.
There is just one last thing: I'm so sorry, James, that I never asked how you were. How your day was going, how your job was going, what you had planned for your future. I don't generally ask for forgiveness, but perhaps me telling you that my brother has been free of narcotics and hard drugs for over a year-and-a-half will somehow make up for it.
Until then, I hope that wherever you are, you are there. In that moment. Present with yourself, and present with the people around you. I hope you are still asking people around you about their days, listening and responding in a friendly, conversational tone. I hope you still have a job, even if it is somewhere else, and that you make enough money to pay your bills, because being in debt is not fun. I hope you have obtained a degree of some sort from somewhere for some future career that means something to you. (Maybe you could go to school for nursing. With your affect, I bet you'd be fabulous.)
Most of all, I hope you have quit smoking, because not only is it disgusting, but you're literally shaving years off of your life with every drag. As for the heroin, well, there is hope. And help. Often times it comes in the form of anger and pain, but keep your eyes out for it when it comes along. In the meantime, just do your best to count change correctly, remember birthdays, call your parents often, and tell people you care about that you love them more than you think fit.
And as for me, James, I'm doing just fine.
With sisterly love,
Lindsay
Sunday, May 18, 2014
Dear Peter Dinklage
Peter,
I want you to know that before you became super popular and everyone was like, "OMG Tyrion Lannister!", I was a fan of yours. What an outstanding job you did in Elf! (Yes, he was in Elf. Figure it out, people.) Granted, that's really the only thing I remember you from, and I only remembered you after you were introduced to the general public as the intelligent, tortured, misrepresented dwarf brother of Cersei Lannister, but let's be completely honest here: I was still on the bandwagon before it had wheels. Now that the Game of Thrones world has expanded to people outside of the fantasy realm, the wheels spin so quickly and intensely that they are about to fall off, and of that, Peter, I'm afraid.
I'm too young to die. I've got too much ahead of me, too much spunk. Too much rage. Way too many jobs left undone, and not enough revenge had. Just like you, Peter! How similar we truly are. That is, if you're anything like the character you play. And that's why I'm writing you this letter, Peter. Because you've inspired me, in a deep and meaningful way, right when I needed it most. By the way, can I call you Peter?
After watching tonight's Game of Thrones episode, I couldn't get you or Tyrion out of my head. I struggled deeply with many questions:
Why is Tyrion's scar at the forefront of my thought? (Fuck you, Ser Mandon.)
Why am I so captivated by his character, especially the last several weeks?
What is it about Tyrion that makes me feel like I already know him as a personal friend?
How can I meet Peter Dinklage? Will he like me? What will he wear when that day comes?
Now, I'm not sure I can answer these questions fully, or even accurately-- but I do have some speculative answers. Peter, if it is okay with you, I'd like to share said answers with you and the world. It just feels better when I get things off my chest.
Your scar. That unsightly, unfair scar. I believe, without getting extremely intimate, that this is on my mind primarily because it is just so damn large. It looks like it hasn't healed at all since Season 2, and that makes me extremely upset. Tyrion did NOT deserve that lashing-- and if you have ever personally faced bodily injury such as this, Peter, then I hope that he or she has been put in the ground.
Every week, I am humbled by how much emotion you channel into Tyrion's character. The way your mouth twisted into a crooked line of anger and sadness when Shae betrayed you in court was nearly unbearable to watch. It was almost as if you actually had the same hole in you, Peter, that Shae ripped into Tyrion. How else can I explain your visible, visceral display of raw pain? If you don't mind me asking, have you ever felt that way? Has someone in your past done you so wrong that you were able to tap into it, into that buried area of your soul, just for that split second as the beautiful Sibel Kekilly turned brutally monsterish, lying like the whore that she is? (Sorry, Sibel. No hard feelings; but that was a bitch move.)
If your past is so, I hope your heart has healed-- at least more than your scar. And I know you didn't ask, but if you must know, I've felt pain like that before. While I wasn't ever verbally betrayed in court, I was certainly betrayed in the name of love. In my freshman year of college, I was head-over-heels obsessed with a guy who essentially used me to get over an ex. Maybe I should have had a clue, maybe his forgery was undetectable. In any event, it sure felt real; I lost so much time and energy hoping and wishing the future with him that I'd concocted in my head would reveal itself as truth that I wouldn't have known the difference. Jesus, did he fool my sorry ass. Looking back on it now, I would bet with my non-existent savings account that he loved me back, but he was just too comfortable going back to what he knew. And that conversation, while it didn't take place in a courtroom, twisted my tongue into a scepter of doubt and self-loathing for a long time. I clearly wasn't worthy of mutual, romantic affection. It hurt like fuck, Peter. I know you must be wondering, did I get over it? The honest-to-God truth is that yes, I did-- and thank you for asking. But whenever I remember it, God damn, do I remember.
Peter, I realize that I'm writing this letter to you partially in the name of Tyrion, but realize: I appreciate you for you. In fact, please take my cross-references as a sign of my recognition of your superior acting skills. How perfect! That last sentiment brings me to my sort-of-answer for my third question. No, you're not really my friend. No, Tyrion is not really my friend. But damn it all, Peter, if I don't feel like you are sitting right next to my pajama-ed ass each Sunday, spilling your guts and being all sorts of anecdotal about how your asshole father has hated you since your birth. It's almost like we are having a sleepover, but I can't turn to tell you that "You shouldn't blame yourself for your mother's death!" or, "I understand why you've used sex and alcohol as cures for the emptiness in your being all these years!" simply because YOU'RE NOT HERE.
Unfortunately, that is something I can do nothing about, unless you can help me answer my last question: How can we meet up, Peter? You've no idea what that meeting would mean to me. We're from the same mold. We harbor similar pains. We've both been bullied, teased, flat-out tortured because of how we look.
HOW WE LOOK. Are you fucking kidding me? You play the most intelligent person in Westeros and I've got a creative heart with an unlimited capacity for emotion-- and people have judged us because of how we look? I'm talking beyond Tyrion here, now. There were times in your life where you were treated differently because of your size, I'm sure of it. And for that, I'm sorry. But isn't that all the more reason we should meet? I could tell you about the time my best friend's boyfriend bestowed me with the honor of a genus and species, Vampiris Rodentia (you wouldn't believe the size of my front teeth), and maybe about the time I was kicked out of the "hott girls club" in Elementary school (yes, Elementary school) because I went to a sleepover with a ripped nightgown and my friends thought I was poor. We could exchange all of our stories over French roast or loose leaf Rooibos tea, laughing them into oblivion and pretending mutually that they haven't made us into the inevitably insecure, self-deprecating, humorously emotional, loving and open persons that we are today. And the waitress would refill our mugs for free over and over again, because you're you.
Doesn't that sound nice, Peter? Maybe I'm getting ahead of myself. Who is to say you would even find me charming? A girl can dream, but let me tell you-- I generally have a way with people, especially people named Peter Dinklage. I could wear a patterned sundress, and you could wear khaki shorts with a T-shirt that says, "F*** The Lannisters" on it. Or maybe you'd wear a blazer, with a button-down shirt and no tie (because the café we would be at would clearly be social-casual).
Okay. Enough is enough. I've written you this letter, and I feel much better about myself. Even if you never read it, I hope somehow you obtain satisfaction from knowing that you were the inspiration behind what will be the rest of my life. You were my first blog entry, a blog that I hope to take excerpts from and compile into my first book. It's almost 1am, and I've been writing for two hours. To you. That's more than I have written in one sitting since last summer. And I call myself a writer? I say I have big dreams? I say I want to publish? I say I want to quit teaching, I say to hell with administrators who are stripping our schools of the very core of education--individuality-- and yet I sit, waiting, not writing, for what? Someone ELSE to write you a letter? Because I'm afraid of failure? That no one will read or be interested in what I have to say?
No. Not this time. This time I'm getting little sleep, and I'm taking the plunge into something new. Even if this is only the beginning of a grueling, painful, scary, tumultuous exit plan, I've never known a happy ending that came without that type of beginning.
And there it is-- yet another similarity Peter. You've got an exit plan, this season, in the form of Oberyn helping Tyrion. I'm truly hoping that your character's happy ending finally comes (or some version of it) and that the same gratification he might feel by beating his own family at his own game can somehow be channeled into your personal life after you act your way through Season 4. Because I haven't read the books, I take the risk of sounding foolish-- but I have a good feeling about this one. Just like I have a good feeling about this blog, this exit plan, my next risk.
In closing, I'd like to thank you, Peter. In one hour, you managed to remind me that life is just too fucking short to be anything but happy. Not content, not satisfied, but happy. And my version of happy is not in a formulaic note-taking template, it isn't in a gridded daily lesson plan; it is not in the dramatic antics of complacent coworkers, it isn't in the rare moments of gratitude I receive from my students at school. For me, it is in what I'm doing now. Writing this letter to you, hoping people will read it, and knowing you never will.
And you know what? Finally, because of something intangible and subconscious, I'm okay with that.
With much love and appreciation,
Lindsay M. Coffta
p.s. I've decided you should wear the blazer.
I want you to know that before you became super popular and everyone was like, "OMG Tyrion Lannister!", I was a fan of yours. What an outstanding job you did in Elf! (Yes, he was in Elf. Figure it out, people.) Granted, that's really the only thing I remember you from, and I only remembered you after you were introduced to the general public as the intelligent, tortured, misrepresented dwarf brother of Cersei Lannister, but let's be completely honest here: I was still on the bandwagon before it had wheels. Now that the Game of Thrones world has expanded to people outside of the fantasy realm, the wheels spin so quickly and intensely that they are about to fall off, and of that, Peter, I'm afraid.
I'm too young to die. I've got too much ahead of me, too much spunk. Too much rage. Way too many jobs left undone, and not enough revenge had. Just like you, Peter! How similar we truly are. That is, if you're anything like the character you play. And that's why I'm writing you this letter, Peter. Because you've inspired me, in a deep and meaningful way, right when I needed it most. By the way, can I call you Peter?
After watching tonight's Game of Thrones episode, I couldn't get you or Tyrion out of my head. I struggled deeply with many questions:
Why is Tyrion's scar at the forefront of my thought? (Fuck you, Ser Mandon.)
Why am I so captivated by his character, especially the last several weeks?
What is it about Tyrion that makes me feel like I already know him as a personal friend?
How can I meet Peter Dinklage? Will he like me? What will he wear when that day comes?
Now, I'm not sure I can answer these questions fully, or even accurately-- but I do have some speculative answers. Peter, if it is okay with you, I'd like to share said answers with you and the world. It just feels better when I get things off my chest.
Your scar. That unsightly, unfair scar. I believe, without getting extremely intimate, that this is on my mind primarily because it is just so damn large. It looks like it hasn't healed at all since Season 2, and that makes me extremely upset. Tyrion did NOT deserve that lashing-- and if you have ever personally faced bodily injury such as this, Peter, then I hope that he or she has been put in the ground.
Every week, I am humbled by how much emotion you channel into Tyrion's character. The way your mouth twisted into a crooked line of anger and sadness when Shae betrayed you in court was nearly unbearable to watch. It was almost as if you actually had the same hole in you, Peter, that Shae ripped into Tyrion. How else can I explain your visible, visceral display of raw pain? If you don't mind me asking, have you ever felt that way? Has someone in your past done you so wrong that you were able to tap into it, into that buried area of your soul, just for that split second as the beautiful Sibel Kekilly turned brutally monsterish, lying like the whore that she is? (Sorry, Sibel. No hard feelings; but that was a bitch move.)
If your past is so, I hope your heart has healed-- at least more than your scar. And I know you didn't ask, but if you must know, I've felt pain like that before. While I wasn't ever verbally betrayed in court, I was certainly betrayed in the name of love. In my freshman year of college, I was head-over-heels obsessed with a guy who essentially used me to get over an ex. Maybe I should have had a clue, maybe his forgery was undetectable. In any event, it sure felt real; I lost so much time and energy hoping and wishing the future with him that I'd concocted in my head would reveal itself as truth that I wouldn't have known the difference. Jesus, did he fool my sorry ass. Looking back on it now, I would bet with my non-existent savings account that he loved me back, but he was just too comfortable going back to what he knew. And that conversation, while it didn't take place in a courtroom, twisted my tongue into a scepter of doubt and self-loathing for a long time. I clearly wasn't worthy of mutual, romantic affection. It hurt like fuck, Peter. I know you must be wondering, did I get over it? The honest-to-God truth is that yes, I did-- and thank you for asking. But whenever I remember it, God damn, do I remember.
Peter, I realize that I'm writing this letter to you partially in the name of Tyrion, but realize: I appreciate you for you. In fact, please take my cross-references as a sign of my recognition of your superior acting skills. How perfect! That last sentiment brings me to my sort-of-answer for my third question. No, you're not really my friend. No, Tyrion is not really my friend. But damn it all, Peter, if I don't feel like you are sitting right next to my pajama-ed ass each Sunday, spilling your guts and being all sorts of anecdotal about how your asshole father has hated you since your birth. It's almost like we are having a sleepover, but I can't turn to tell you that "You shouldn't blame yourself for your mother's death!" or, "I understand why you've used sex and alcohol as cures for the emptiness in your being all these years!" simply because YOU'RE NOT HERE.
Unfortunately, that is something I can do nothing about, unless you can help me answer my last question: How can we meet up, Peter? You've no idea what that meeting would mean to me. We're from the same mold. We harbor similar pains. We've both been bullied, teased, flat-out tortured because of how we look.
HOW WE LOOK. Are you fucking kidding me? You play the most intelligent person in Westeros and I've got a creative heart with an unlimited capacity for emotion-- and people have judged us because of how we look? I'm talking beyond Tyrion here, now. There were times in your life where you were treated differently because of your size, I'm sure of it. And for that, I'm sorry. But isn't that all the more reason we should meet? I could tell you about the time my best friend's boyfriend bestowed me with the honor of a genus and species, Vampiris Rodentia (you wouldn't believe the size of my front teeth), and maybe about the time I was kicked out of the "hott girls club" in Elementary school (yes, Elementary school) because I went to a sleepover with a ripped nightgown and my friends thought I was poor. We could exchange all of our stories over French roast or loose leaf Rooibos tea, laughing them into oblivion and pretending mutually that they haven't made us into the inevitably insecure, self-deprecating, humorously emotional, loving and open persons that we are today. And the waitress would refill our mugs for free over and over again, because you're you.
Doesn't that sound nice, Peter? Maybe I'm getting ahead of myself. Who is to say you would even find me charming? A girl can dream, but let me tell you-- I generally have a way with people, especially people named Peter Dinklage. I could wear a patterned sundress, and you could wear khaki shorts with a T-shirt that says, "F*** The Lannisters" on it. Or maybe you'd wear a blazer, with a button-down shirt and no tie (because the café we would be at would clearly be social-casual).
Okay. Enough is enough. I've written you this letter, and I feel much better about myself. Even if you never read it, I hope somehow you obtain satisfaction from knowing that you were the inspiration behind what will be the rest of my life. You were my first blog entry, a blog that I hope to take excerpts from and compile into my first book. It's almost 1am, and I've been writing for two hours. To you. That's more than I have written in one sitting since last summer. And I call myself a writer? I say I have big dreams? I say I want to publish? I say I want to quit teaching, I say to hell with administrators who are stripping our schools of the very core of education--individuality-- and yet I sit, waiting, not writing, for what? Someone ELSE to write you a letter? Because I'm afraid of failure? That no one will read or be interested in what I have to say?
No. Not this time. This time I'm getting little sleep, and I'm taking the plunge into something new. Even if this is only the beginning of a grueling, painful, scary, tumultuous exit plan, I've never known a happy ending that came without that type of beginning.
And there it is-- yet another similarity Peter. You've got an exit plan, this season, in the form of Oberyn helping Tyrion. I'm truly hoping that your character's happy ending finally comes (or some version of it) and that the same gratification he might feel by beating his own family at his own game can somehow be channeled into your personal life after you act your way through Season 4. Because I haven't read the books, I take the risk of sounding foolish-- but I have a good feeling about this one. Just like I have a good feeling about this blog, this exit plan, my next risk.
In closing, I'd like to thank you, Peter. In one hour, you managed to remind me that life is just too fucking short to be anything but happy. Not content, not satisfied, but happy. And my version of happy is not in a formulaic note-taking template, it isn't in a gridded daily lesson plan; it is not in the dramatic antics of complacent coworkers, it isn't in the rare moments of gratitude I receive from my students at school. For me, it is in what I'm doing now. Writing this letter to you, hoping people will read it, and knowing you never will.
And you know what? Finally, because of something intangible and subconscious, I'm okay with that.
With much love and appreciation,
Lindsay M. Coffta
p.s. I've decided you should wear the blazer.
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